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Why Older Men Prefer Younger Women

Discussion in 'Issues Around the World' started by ethics, Aug 16, 2004.

  1. ethics

    ethics Pomp-Dumpster Staff Member

    [bl]There is actually quite a bit that young women have to offer older men besides looks alone, Masini says. On the most obvious level, theres that fun, young energy they have. Theres naivet, which can be attractive when compared with the cynicism of some older women. Theres a playfulness a lack of the seriousness that can sometimes accompany being an adult and having responsibility. And, for some men, theres the fact that these young girls look up to them as father figures and as mentors. That, in and of itself, is very attractive.[/bl]

    Know what's ironic? <a href="http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=2499&Tracking=516311&BannerID=544657&GT1=4628">This article</a> describes everything I don't like about ANY women.
  2. Sharondippity

    Sharondippity Sweetness and Light

    I've always preferred older men. For many reasons, among them sophistication and maturity in problem solving.
  3. LissaKay

    LissaKay Oh ... Really???

    It ain't cynicism, honey ... it's realism ... heh.

    What the article does not go into ... there is a teensy bit of pedophile in some men. They are attracted to child-like features. Rosy cheeks, full red lips, smooth skin, soft, silky, fine hair ... shaved pubic hairs. This can be found in the younger women much more easily than in us wrinkled up, graying old hags. (You want me to shave my WHAT??? Git outta here!)

    And also the domination factor ... most men, by nature, prefer to be the dominant partner in a relationship (No, I am not talking whips and chains here, quit drooling, perv). They want to be the one that leads, guides, makes the decisions. Men with strong egos can find a good balance with their partner. Men with weaker egos find this difficult with older, mature women who have found their sense of self and independence, and who don't take well to be "pushed around." This can be intimidating and off-putting to the wimpier sort of fellow. The younger gals offer less resistance to this dominance and are therefore more attractive to those kind of men. This may also be the reason why men in "mid-life crisis" seek out affairs with 20-something missies. As they age, they doubt their manhood. What better than a submissive, nubile, young lass to bolster flagging spirits ... and other parts as well.
  4. ethics

    ethics Pomp-Dumpster Staff Member

    I am going to disagree on the pedophilia bit.

    Pedophilia is a sexual dysfunction where the culprit is excited, turned on sexually, by the innocent factors of the girls and boys. Meaning, no boobs, no pubes, and the very fact that this is a child before puberty. Again, its a psychological <b>disorder</b> in which there is a preference for sexual activity with prepubertal children. One can not be a "little" pedophile just like one can not be a little pregnant. Those that are not caught right off are just better at controlling their pedophilia but it doesn't mean they have a lesser degree of it.

    Because I prefer shaved women doesn't make me nor any other guy even remotely dysfunctional, be that attributed to pedophilia or some other sexual abnormality. Porn industry today caters to that preference because shaved women and men tend to be cleaner, less area for them to collect bacteria that causes odor, and has plenty of showing the area which us visual creatures prefer.

    I won't argue the dominance factor but I would also include that most women tend to like being submissive rather than dominant themselves. A perfect partnership has give and go, pending on the preferences of the couple.

    Now the reason I prefer older women is because of the psychological differences. Older women (although not exclusively) tend to know what they want, how they want it, where they want, and who will be the giver, if not themselves, and I do not mean that in the strict sexual sense. Independence, intelligence, and even aloofness is something that I prefer in women, and that batch tends to be later in their years than the 18 years olds.
  5. Advocat

    Advocat Viral Memes a Speciality Staff Member

    A somewhat more scientific view of why men tend to prefer younger women: evolutional cues relating to fertility and the chance of offspring:

    According to evolutionary psychology, ancestral men evolved ways to sense how well woman might reproduce offspring (Buss, 1994: 50). One of the most obvious clues is youth. The older a woman gets, the less fertile she becomes. According to evolutionary psychologists, a man sees fertility as an important attribute because it assures him that his blood line will continue. In many cultures, men prefer wives who are younger, although the age difference varies across societies.
    In the United States, college students surveyed between 1939-1988, indicated the preferred age difference is approximately 2.5 years. Men who were 21 years old prefered, on average, women who were 18.5 years (Buss, 1994: 51) As men get older, they tend to be attracted to women who are increasingly younger than they are. Men in their thirties prefer women 5 years younger, while men in their 70's prefer women who are 10 to 20 years younger.</blockquote>
  6. ethics

    ethics Pomp-Dumpster Staff Member

    Can't dispute that.
  7. Copzilla

    Copzilla dangerous animal Staff Member

    Really, there's going to be a lot of truth in that.

    Our sexual emotions, what drives us with regards to things like reproduction, is governed in a large part by genetics. After all, sex drive in itself is a primal urge.

    A hard part of life is that we get old, in all aspects of nature. The young stag eventually runs off the big warrior buck. The young male gorilla eventually becomes the huge silverback who gets all the girls.

    Yes, human beings have evolved, where our actions are governable - but our sex drive isn't something that is evolved because someone wants more sensitivity... It's on a genetic, primal level. It evolves over tens of thousands of years. So on at least some sense older guys chase younger girls because the graybeard is the guy who is supposed to run the pack, and kick all the younger guys' asses.


    And no, preferring a woman with shaved pubic region is no more pedohilia than preferring a woman who doesn't have hairy armpits. Look at the pics in the GJ that are posted with shaved gals, and try telling me they're children. They're at the height of their reproductivity.
  8. Violet1966

    Violet1966 Stand and Deliver Staff Member

    I was young when I met my ex husband. I was 18 and he was 29. I was looking for a man to guide me and love me and thought I wanted to be with him forever...he was looking for a young woman. We both fit each other's bill....then I grew up. We grew apart. I don't recommend that any couple have a difference in age like I did at the age I was at. We didn't marry till I was 20 and even then...I was still blinded by the love and sex. I thought it was never gonna change...and it did. I did. I was the one who changed. Be careful what you wish for all you older men seeking younger women. She will tell you she'll love you forever and believe that she does...then life takes her down the road some more and it just happens...not that asked for it to happen either. :(
  9. Mentat

    Mentat Banned

    He is right. "Looks", (see sexual attraction), is a strong first! Everything else is at best a distant second! :lol:

    Even though I am divorced there were many positive or good things in my marriage or relatioship with my ex-wife. The fact that I was eleven years older was a big plus for both of us. We felt that way at the beginnng and at the end.
  10. cdw

    cdw Ahhhh...the good life.

    omg, thank you! That's one of the first things I caught, lol. WTF.
  11. ditch

    ditch Downunder Member

    Older men find it more difficult to accept the fact that they are getting older and strive to attain the youthful attachments, such as a younger woman, to help them keep on feeling young. We either find it harder to accept that we are getting older or are unaware of how younger people perceive us and how old we do actually look compared to how we think we look.

    There comes a time though that you know the pace you'd have to keep up with to match the younger crowd is probably going to kill you if your not careful.
  12. freebear

    freebear Registered User

    Clearly, you have issues with older men dating younger women. My question is why? I could care less if you go out with a 20 year old man. It is no reflection on me as I do not even know you.

    As for domination, good luck to anyone trying to dominate these 20 year old women running around these days. Sorry, but that argument is so WRONG as to defy analysis of why you would think that.

    Pedophilia? Excuse me, Ma'am. I am the victim of childhood sexual abuse. I was 8 years old. A 21 year old is legal in all 50 states and makes her own decisions. There is a helluva lot of difference in an 8 year old child and a 21 year old woman. So, don't tell me a grown man dating a grown woman is pedophilia. I know the *&&^%ING difference.

    Yes, darlin', it IS cynicism. American women in general are the most cynical group of people I have ever met in my life. By dating a younger woman I am dating someone who:

    1. Is not cynical...or overly realistic to use your term. I am an idealist, I still have dreams and goals and hope to God I die that way. She is, too, and if we work out - iffy, I agree - I am going to try to move Heavan and earth so she does not lose that idealism. Am I saying I responsible for her? Damn right, I am. If the men in this country would stop pissing their britches every time someone accused them of being insensitive and went to work and paid their bills for their families as they are supposed to do maybe if would be a different country to live in. Yeah, if we work out, I intend to not miss a bet.

    2. Sex with them is not a &^%$$am negotiation.

    3. I have stayed in shape and generally beat the brakes off 90% of the 20 year old men in the gym. The last woman I dated around my age (42), didn't even want to take a walk and she was so wound up about being out of shape she didn't even want to go swimming. Understand...this was her perception, not mine... I thought she was beautiful.

    4. My first wife would not have kids and most women my age don't want anymore. I want kids of my own. What the hell am I supposed to do?

    5. See #2 again.

    6. She holds me and I hold her and we talk for hours about everything. It is the first time in my life I had that! She has no kids, no baggage and her dad is 19 years older than her mother. Someone asked me did we really have anything in common. Taste in music, movies, books, politics, religion...goes on and on.

    Her mom is 49 and I am 42. Her dad is 68, a 19 year difference between him and his wife.

    Pedophilia, indeed. You know, snotty @$$ remarks like that really jerked my chain, but probably reveal more about you and how you see the world than they do about what I fell into as an accident.
  13. Biker

    Biker Administrator Staff Member

    Jeeez! What is it with the old thread resurections?! Read the dates people!
  14. freebear

    freebear Registered User

    Whoops! Thanks, Biker. I am new to this board and was researching the issue and came across this and no, I did NOT hceck the date.

    So, why are YOU here?:)
  15. cdw

    cdw Ahhhh...the good life.

    Nothing wrong with new people reading old threads in joining Biker.
    Welcome to the newcomer!

    While I do not agree with many of LissaKays points, there are others I agree with. I also find it amusing that an older man makes complaints that the older woman also has about her partner. Life within marriage, long term, is complicated. Your point, well, if it works out (which you aren't too sure about) just appears to be an 'I'll take the good and leave the rest' behind type of an attitude, which isn't good for any marriage.
  16. Fiona

    Fiona Veteran Member

    Ahhh, now THAT is the question ;)

    Welcome Freebear. Nice post.
  17. Coriolis

    Coriolis Bob's your uncle

    Probably the same reason the rest of us are here. I just assumed it was a new thread until I (ahem ;)) checked the date and saw it was a year old.

    But as Cyd said, nothing wrong with reading old stuff. Welcome, and hope you get a chance to read some the more recent stuff. ;)
  18. tke711

    tke711 Oink Oink Staff Member

    He's everywhere....and always watching....

  19. Domh

    Domh Full Member

    I knew it! I knew it!

  20. RetFireCapt

    RetFireCapt In memory of Joshie.

    What's wrong with raising an old thread from the dust of time as long as the subject is timeless? You just didn't want to see Sharon again, admit it. :lol:

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